Morality = choker OR agreed upon code of conduct?

My good friend E*** and I were discussing a couple of weeks ago about morality. I admitted that I envy her because she seems to have been born with an internal alarm that seems to go off every time something is “morally wrong”. She never hesitates or doubts, she just knows. I on the other hand have to think through everything in order to decide if I am “morally” opposed to it. In that sense I have replaced morality with logic. In my opinion our society in general is doing the same thing. (Maybe as a way to solve the problem of moral relativity?) The problem with going down that road though is that one starts using arguments to explain something that should not and can not always be broken down and analyzed logically. We end up not asking ourselves “why?” but “why not?”and the answers are becoming less and less convincing and the little voice in our head that is suggesting with ever growing hesitation “maybe you shouldn’t be sleeping with him, after all he is your best friends ex that broke her heart” is dying out.

Our moral boundaries seem to stretch endlessly as we discover more and more things that “weren’t so bad” after all. Things are no longer good and bad just things we have done and things we haven’t done...yet!

For example the other night we were having a conversation with a friend about relationships and sex. Now she seemed to believe that it is morally colorless to sleep with a guy whom you know to be involved with someone else but it is disgusting and abominable to make out with your lesbian girlfriend in public because: “You can’t force the people around you to see THAT, it’s disgusting!”

The reason being she obviously has been sleeping repeatedly with guys that were in a relationship but hasn’t experimented with any of her girlfriends...yet! Same way H**** thinks that it is possible to cheat on your boyfriend even though you love him but it is cruel to stay with a person if you are not interested in them and E*** thought sex out of the relationship was also out of the question until she tried it.

Is this really a moral decadence or are we just tearing down the faux preconceived moral ideas that were implanted in our heads even before we could speak?

Are we just taking off the choker??